How Perimenopause Influences Your Interest in Sex

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By Christina

As women, we go through several life changes, for example, menstruating, perimenopause, and menopause. All of these changes and occurrences tend to mess with our emotions, mental wellness, and much more. So we try to do things to help ourselves through good and tough times in our lives, but when we find we have a low sex drive we ignore understanding why. 

Getting old doesn’t mean that we have to give up on our desires. Nor does a lack of a sex drive mean that your life is over. 

For many of us, we take matters into our own hands and will often turn to vitamins, supplements, and herbs.  Especially if our feelings are ignored by our doctors, which can happen. 

However, vitamins, supplements, and herbs may not address the cause of a low sex drive. The answer could be our hormones. Because we don’t talk about women’s issues as much as we should, we tend to confuse hormone issues for others, such as anxiety. And for those times we dive into self-care time.  (not a bad thing to do on a normal basis)

Perimenopause could be the root of all the symptoms that kill your sex drive.  One of the issues with perimenopuase is we don’t know when it is happening, we tend to  think there is something off about us, and so we might journey into either discovering what is wrong with us or how we can heal ourselves. 

In this post we are going to talk about the little talked about subject of perimenopause and how it can affect your sex drive. 

 

In this article

  • What is perimenopause?
  • Symptoms of perimenopause
  • When to see a Doctor? 
  • Why am I not into sex?
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What is Perimenopause?

According to Johns Hopkins Medicine, perimenopause is the time just before or around menopause when your ovaries gradually start to stop working. While this is a natural process that can cause physical and emotional symptoms, it doesn’t always need to be treated. However, if symptoms are well beyond control there is treatment available to lessen those symptoms.

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Symptoms of perimenopause

Many of the symptoms you could experience from perimenopause are noticeable while many are not. According to the Mayo Clinic, you could experience:

Irregular periods:

where you were like a clock before your periods now are either late or early. Longer or shorter. Heavier or lighter. A significant change in a period can last up to seven days or more. Sometimes, a 60-day space between periods can be a symptom of perimenopause.

Hot flashes and sleep problems:

The Mayo Clinic says hot flashes are common during perimenopause, but the intensity, length, and frequency may vary. Your sleep is interrupted by hot flashes and or night sweats. However, even without these gems, your sleep might be unpredictable. Where you had a great sleep before, you now have random bad nights. 

 

Mood changes

If you’ve noticed a significant change in your moods, such as irritability or mood swings that could be a sign of perimenopause. Most of these symptoms including the risk of depression are caused by sleep disruption associated with hot flashes. However, hormones might be the factor that causes the mood changes. 

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Vaginal and bladder problems

One of the major hormones women have in abundance is estrogen, when loss levels diminish your vagina may feel dry, and not so pliable. In turn, it makes having sex painful. Low estrogen could also make you more susceptible to urinary or vaginal infections. 

 

Changes in sexual desire

Perimoneopuaxe can cause changes in sexual desire and arousal. Perfectly normal, and something you don’t need to be ashamed of. We have our moments of not wanting sex but when it is more often than not there could be an underlying condition. (such as hormone changes)

 

 

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Changes in cholesterol

With estrogen levels declining this could lead to changes in your blood cholesterol levels. Some of these changes could include an increase in low-density lipoprotein LDL cholesterol-otherwise known as the bad cholesterol. While having decreased high-density lipoprotein HDL cholesterol-know as the good cholesterol. Each of these decreases and increases within women can increase the risk of heart disease.

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When to see a Doctor?

Many symptoms do not require you to see a doctor, but your feelings are yours. If you notice the symptoms are interfering with your life, well-being or sexual desire see your doctor. 

If you are not validated by your doctor that could be simply because your symptoms are not noticeable, but that doesn’t mean they are not there. Talk to your doctor, and express how you feel regardless of how embarrassing some of your symptoms may be. There could be a treatment to help you and the way you feel. And as a side note, don’t be afraid to look for a doctor who tries to understand you.

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Why am I not into sex? 

Women’s healthcare (dot) net discusses hormonal changes as a cause of not being interested in sex. Menopause or other changes in your hormones could very well be the reason why you’re not interested in sex. These changes could change the vaginal tissue, making it thinner and drier. Which ends up making sex painful or uncomfortable. The lowering of the hormone estrogen can also cause the risk of low libido.

Over time our sex drives tend to fluctuate. There are a lot of reasons that could influence your interest in sex such as stress from work, relationship issues, hormonal changes, and even pregnancy. 

In a study conducted by womenshealthcare.net having a low interest in sex is fairly common. Roughly 40% of American women have a low interest in sex. 

Talk to your doctor and discuss your symptoms, feelings, and whatever else could be a factor in your low libido.

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In the end

Talking about your sex life with anyone other than your girlfriends is and can be embarrassing, but these issues are important to talk about with your partner and doctor. 

There are solutions to your specific needs, you just need to ask. Your lack of interest in sex doesn’t always mean your hormones are out of wack, there could be something else going on. 

 

Regardless of what your needs are, hormone therapy, review and adjustment of medications, adding or taking away vitamins, or changes in your lifestyle, there are ways to help you feel more like you again. And boost your sex drive. 

 There is no shame in getting the help you need, or feel you should have. 

You might be surprised to discover a lack of interest in sex is fairly common and you’re not alone. 

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