I am going through a divorce, and it’s been particularly challenging with two kids. I’m a single dad, raising my girls with one income. My work life is also full of ups and downs. I’m not respected and I am often overworked.
Also, my ex-wife has decided to move to a different country, and it has been causing a lot of stress. She’s become overly demanding about the divorce finalizing and I’m feeling overwhelmed. How can I healthily navigate this situation while ensuring the well-being of my children?
Getting Divorced Dad
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Dear Getting Divorced Dad,
First off, I am so very sorry to hear about the challenges you’re facing and I commend your commitment to your children. Divorce is never easy, especially around the holidays.
Not only are you trying to cope with the changes in your life but you’re also having to deal with the lack of a co-parent.
The first thing I would suggest is to prioritize your children’s well-being. Keep the focus on what’s best for the kids. Ensure that they maintain a stable routine and have consistent support from you. Regardless of their age, talk to them. Create a safe place with you. Emphasize the importance of a healthy relationship with you. If mom wants to have a long-distance relationship don’t stop it, nurish it.
As for your soon-to-be ex-wife wanting to move aboard, I suggest consulting with a family lawyer to understand your rights and responsibilities. Legal guidance can help you navigate the complexities of international custody arrangements and ensure that your children’s best interests are protected.
Having said that it is also a good idea to understand what would happen if she decides she wants nothing to do with the children after she is gone.
Remember it is ok to have some me time. In fact, it is something you should have. Think about babysitting or nanny opportunities, perhaps close friends or family members nearby. Seek support from friends and even a therapist during this challenging time. Taking care of your own well-being is essential for being the best parent you can be.
Wishing you and your family strength and resilence as you work through these uncharted waters.
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