Ways to Connect on a Deeper Level with Your Person

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By Christina

These days you’ll be surprised to know divorces and breakups are happening at alarming rates. I’m serious, just check out this study. 

However, there is hope out there to connect on a deeper level with your person. 

When you find your person there are things you can do to make sure that your relationship stays healthy. The best part is none of them are difficult. 

The only thing you and your partner need is a willing attitude. 

It is normal for most relationships to begin with a lot of sex, but once that settles what do you have? 

You both know you like spending time together, and you’d much rather be with each other than spend a night in a headache-inducing club. 

So you do things you both like. 

The sex may continue just as much as it did in the beginning or perhaps it naturally slows down.

So, where do you go from there? 

How do you continue to connect on a deeper level in and out of the bedroom?

In this article, I’m going to provide you with the answers to help you and your person. Discover the simple ways you can continue to connect with your person and continue building a healthy relationship that can last. 

 

In this article

  • Why connecting on a deeper level is important
  • How to connect on a deeper level with your person
  • Activities to Connect
  • In the end.
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    Why connecting on a deeper level is important

    In every relationship, there is some kind of connection. Either through a physical connection, coupled with an emotional connection, or simply just enjoying each other’s company. 

    However, a relationship is shallow if there is no real depth to it.

    It’s important to connect on a deeper level because our relationships impact everything about our lives. They can impact our emotional well-being and physical and mental health. The healthier and stronger the relationship also helps us to create a more flourishing life.

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    How to connect on a deeper level with your person

    Ask about their day

    I know so simple, but honestly, this little nugget is very impactful. When you ask about your person’s day it shows that you care, you are interested in them. Allow them to decompress from whatever good or bad things happened at work. Be sure to comment when necessary but the point is for you to listen. 

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    Listen

    Now I am not necessarily talking about listening during a conversation because of course, you should be doing that already.  What I’m talking about now is listening to what you’re person isn’t saying. If they are not happy with the flowers they saw someone get that probably means they don’t like that kind of flower. If they are always bringing up a kind of hot sauce they used to have when they were little-find that hot sauce.  The point is to show that you care enough to listen to things that are not directly spoken about and you’re paying attention to what your partner is thinking and feeling.

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      Get off your phone during time together or watching television or eating

      This should be a no-brainer, but alas it needs to be reminded. There should be only one electronic available and only when you’re using it, like watching television. Allow the show to dictate your conversations. This will give you and your person insight into what they are thinking about the issues you both are watching. You can even have a fun deep conversation about the What if’s in shows. 

       

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        Read a book together

        Create your own mini book club. As you would for the shows and movies that you watch, dissect everything the characters did or didn’t do. How would you change the plot? What would you do differently? That kind of thing. This is also a great get to a conversation starter, you can compare the characters to your own life, and share antidotes from you childhood.

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          Argue

          Every couple argues, and some do it better than others. If you and your person do not argue perhaps its time.

          We all have disagreements and feelings that sometimes get stepped on. So you have it out with the person, who should know you best. 

          Through arguing you connect with your person by discovering how they need support and what they need to feel safe.

          Now that does not mean to pick a fight, but when one naturally occurs listen. Work through your misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and other argument starters. 

          All of this will deepen your relationship, build trust, and provide much-needed security and support everyone is looking for in a relationship.

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          (more) Activities to Connect

           

          • Explore a hobby together
          • Go for a walk
          • Volunteer together
          • Join a class such as cooking or dancing
          • Plan a road trip
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          In the end:

           

          By making the time to prioritize your relationship and make genuine connections is how to build a resilient and fulfilling relationship with your person. When you invest in sharing experiences, you’re not only embracing meaningful practices but you’re creating a deeper connection.

          A relationship is like a garden, it needs constant weeding, watering, and love. When you put in the time, you’ll find a deep connection. 

          My favorite line about relationships,

          “Ask yourself: Is the juice worth the squeeze?”

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          I’m the coffee-addicted creative behind Christina Q. Writes. As a full-time writer and lover of history, I share insights into my crazy wonderful life.  Christina Q. Writes is where I share tips and advice to help you live simply and in the moment, and do it your way. Don’t be afraid to laugh at my mistakes!